As I was growing up, food always had a stronger pull on me than anyone else in my family. For years I had maintained a fairly “normal” weight range but it was only through countless new diets in between periods of weight gains. I was your typical yo-yoer. The battle raged on for years until, by my 40th birthday, it was clear I was losing the war. I weighed 347 pounds.
I had all the wounds of one in a battle – bruises on the outside of my thighs from sitting in chairs with arms that were too small for my fat derriere. Stretch marks across nearly every inch of my unexposed body. Flat feet. Not to mention a bruised heart and tired spirit. I could go on and on. A soldier at war, sometimes on the offensive, but more often in retreat. By 347 pounds, my morale was at an all-time low.
If you looked up military morale in Wikipedia, here is, in part, what you would find:
"Historically, an army with good supply lines, sound air cover and a clear objective can be said to possess "high morale." ... When a unit's morale is said to be "depleted", it means it is close to "crack and surrender", as was the case with Italian units in North Africa during World War II."
Nearly every day of my life has been spent in battle. If I wasn’t eating, I was thinking about what I was going to eat or purchase or prepare … or I was thinking about how big I was getting, how few clothes fit me, or what I was going to try next to lose weight. It was a mental prison that consumed me. The chains had grown so large and tight that I nearly gave up, believing I would never overcome this bondage. The enemy seemed so strong. The battle seemed never ending.
But I didn’t surrender. Just at the time it seemed I would lose everything to food, I tried again. One more time. One more diet. I revamped my forces and gave it my all … and WON! As my tactics changed, so did my progress. As my progress changed, so did my morale. Here is an abbreviated list of the factors affecting military morale. They are so applicable to weight loss!
* Adequate quantity, and quality of food, water, and shelter.
* The quality of leadership and role model.
* The quality of training.
* Having a positive support.
* A belief in the values fought for.
* Frequency of wins or losses in confrontation with the enemy.
Don’t believe for a minute that the best thing about my 212 pound weight loss was my smaller size or my more stylish clothes. It wasn’t having one size in my closet or being able to buckle up in a car or cross my legs or tuck my shirt into my jeans or wear over-the-counter jewelry without extenders. It wasn’t even all the health benefits (although that’s a close second). For me the best part of the whole victory is the mental, emotional and spiritual freedom. I love not being controlled by food. It’s not the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning. I no longer fantasize about it or calculate who’s going to get the largest piece of cake. Food is PART of my life, but it is no longer my LIFE.
All freedom comes at a price. But in most cases the victories that are gained far outweigh the sacrifices that are made. So it is with food.
If you struggle with weight, don’t surrender! No matter how much, no matter how long, the only way you’ll NEVER lose weight is if you stop trying.
Psalm 118:5 “In my anguish I cried to the Lord, and He answered by setting me free.”
Comments
spenner said,
July 7, 2010 11:10 AM
Phyllis - Just wanted to say thanks for your wise words of encouragement and support.
Hugs,
Shelley
bama girl said,
July 6, 2010 8:40 PM
I am reporting in. I did not want to go weigh in today but figured I had to do it some time or other and made myself get up and go this evening. I lost 1.8 lbs. I spent part of the day reviewing program basics. I have got to get it together. I too am tired of losing and gaining the same few pounds again and again. I also walked tonight and am reading Kim's book again. My goal is to write, write, write and maybe I can make this work along with watching my blood sugar. It is so hard but at least I know I am not alone.
Prayers for everyone who needs them.
TruBrit said,
July 6, 2010 1:50 PM
Jill, correction, I didn't stay the same, I actually lost l lb, ahhh, that's better :)
Jo.
Phyllis M1 said,
July 6, 2010 1:42 PM
Shelley and Petra, both of you sound like I did three months ago. I just decided I needed to get off the " lose three, gain back two", merry-go-round or vice versa. I was going nowhere. We have, to, girls. We have to decide that we are tired of this and that it is REALLY important to feel better about ourselves, do better with ourselves, and present a better front. That nothing is going to interfere (at least not for, long) with that mindset. I have gotten myself into a situation whereby I will not do anything I know is going to sabatoge me! I just am not going to give in to that. That was what I did for ten years. We will be right here for you, and couldn't get along without you on this blog. Angel, you have been on here for a year, I think. That shows the stuff you are made of right there. You have encouraged me so many times when that was just what I needed, and I love you dearly. Sometimes we just need a little time to think and give
ourselves a good talking to. Love to you both.
jailes said,
July 6, 2010 12:31 PM
rrrrrRRRRRrrrr----rrrrRRRRrrr---rrrRRRRRRrrrr!!!!!!
Good reportin' for the firetruckers!!! We've heard from 11 of our 17 on board --- that's great! And it's not too late to report -- with the holiday sort of messin' up our Monday --- type in whenever you can get a minute!
rrRRRRrrrr---rrrrRRRRrrrrr----rrrrRRRRRRrrrrrrr!!!!!
* * * * * *
Jillie says:
make it an OH MY STARS day!!!
angeleyes said,
July 6, 2010 12:30 PM
hi my lovely friends,
I just want to say that I´m a few days offline now. I have to think about what is important for me and what I really need to do according my weight loss. I have to make my concept and my goals and I so on. I have to create a new me...and if this means that my new me is a "planner" :))...then it should be so.
I´ll come back...
*hugsandkisses*
Angel
spenner said,
July 6, 2010 11:38 AM
Hi everyone!
Hope you all enjoyed your holiday weekend. I'm just reporting in and I'm sad to say I did plan, but my activities changed and I ended up falling off the firetruck and doing a little self-sabotage eating... so my scale is not exactly accurate, but I think it says I'm up about a pound. I can't seem to get off the up/down ride, but I'm not giving up.... I'm climbing back on the truck and continuing to appreciate the support from all you lovely ladies. I'm struggling to keep the evening eating at 100%, but at least I am keeping up with the exercise.
Have a good day everyone!
Shelley
Phyllis M1 said,
July 6, 2010 6:59 AM
Pepper, WOOHOO! Girl, you were so smart to take those
skewers of veggies. It gave me an idea to grill some skewers this week. I love to do this, but sometimes just
completely forget. Last night our Sue B talked about marinating and I am trying that this week with the peach
vinegarette! That just sounded so good. XO
Phyllis M1 said,
July 6, 2010 6:56 AM
Hi Guys, hope everyone is having a good start to this week.
Our firetruck July!!!
DiDi, your words are so comforting and so true. Our weight
does fluctuate so much during the week. I got up today and
weighed one pound higher! I will watch my water today and
have a big salad for lunch. I am grilling pork chops with l/2 tsp. brown sugar and Vidalia onion slices on them and
having baked sweet potatoes and broccoli for supper. this
should take care of things. I hardly ever eat pork, but Charles loves a pork loin chop. Last night I did my treadmill and some floor exercises. We worked in the house a lot over the weekend and I feel as tho I've gotten my exercise in (pretty well).
Di, I have been praying about your Dad coming home. I know this is so hard. Charles and I have been through this with his parents, who lived to be in their late 80's. I will never forget it. You don't want them to be so unomfortable, but just don't know exactly what to do. I always fixed Charles' mom's hair every week in little
pink sponge rollers, even when she couldn't get to church
every week. The kids were little (it was soon after Charles and I married 32 years ago and they only lived
another seven or eight years. so the kids were small. My
heart goes out to you. I just know what a wonderful
person you are and that you will be there for him and
those precious daughters of yours and Al will too. It's
a big job. Losing our weight makes us more able to cope,
doesn't it. Love, phillie
didi said,
July 5, 2010 7:52 PM
Yea, Pepper... you did great with those veggie skewers!!! good for you!!!
Angel...try to be patient with yourself...remember, this is for life!!! you did not gain all this weight overnight and it won't come off overnight, either...losing the weight is half the battle...the other half is keeping it off...my weight varies 2-7 lbs during the course of the day depending on what i eat, which is why i only weigh myself once a week...maybe your body type is similar to mine? just hang in there!!!
Jo...congrats on staying the same..i loke to think of it as your body is resting, preparing for the next weight loss...
Hi Phillie...glad you got to spend extra time with Charles this weekend...i spent my whole weekend with Al...we brought dad home from rehab last night...he's very weak and depressed, not as good as we were hoping for...dad lives 2 blocks away, so between last night and today, we spent alot of time there... the pool was wonderful!!! the temp is 92 degrees at this time of night..i got in there to exercise fri, sat, sun and today..hope you have a great week..
pepper300 said,
July 5, 2010 7:02 PM
Hi Jillie..just checking in. I had a great time at my son's 4th of July party ! I took a mountain of veggie skewers with me to nibble. We grilled them on the BBQ grill & it helped me to stay out of the more fattening foods. I am having my normal summer water retention & I am going to take my prescription water pills for a few days and see if it helps. I have journaled daily for last past 8 days straight!! wooohooooo
Phyllis M1 said,
July 5, 2010 5:44 PM
Vera, this is such wonderful news about your being off of
that insulin. Mama was on two shots a day and died at 78. I used to go to all her diabetes' classes with her and I
know what a big step this is for you. And, it is so good to see you on here again. Love, phillie
Glo, don't worry about that potato salad. You won a huge
battle avoiding that chocolate cake at a fourth of July
picnic. CONGRATS!
Phyllis M1 said,
July 5, 2010 4:24 PM
Hi everyone, It was a Great Fourth and Keith Lockhart and the Pops were tremendous, as always. Charles and I have really enjoyed having this extra day together. We really stayed close to home, but did some stuff around the house we had been wanting to get to. I made veggie burgers and they were delicious. Charles had sweet potato fries I made for him and I ate a few. delish!!!
Sounds like everyone did pretty well. Tam, I could tell
from your writing how much in pain you were and applaude
your success in deciding not to let this start an all-out binge. I have been tempted as of late, but keep telling myself, there is no way I am giving up this hard work for something that is a moment on the lips. My doggies were so afraid of the fireworks, too.
Angel,I have had a spell where I would only lose .6, or .8
and had practically gone to bed hungry the night before. DiDi has given you the best advice about weighing yourself. I have begun this daily weigh-in thing for the first time in my life and it is working for me, only because it has shown me so much about my body. I have a lot of trouble with sweets, as you well know, and learning
that a day of treats, like two candy bars, or a Blizzard (ice cream with good things mixed in like cookies, etc.) may not change my weight at all the next day, but eating too much salt at somebody's house might. I have tried to stick to the "only one treat day a week". It just doesn't work for
me to have a little treat every day. I just keep telling myself, I will have this or that on treat day. But I think Di is exactly right and it usually only frustrates people. Can't wait to "see you this week". xo
angeleyes said,
July 5, 2010 3:19 PM
didi...I thought that it´s better to weight myself every day...but I guess you are right when you say...weight just once a week. I´m SO impatient...grrr.
When I want something, I do it right away...this is also at work...I do my work really quick. I want it done. When I want to drive to vienna...I do this...or drive to italy for a cappucchino...I do it...and I want this also for my weight loss journey...I want a loss...now...today...and tomorrow...and the day after tomorrow. Every day the scale should go down. But this is such a loooooong term thing...it´s nothing spontanous...*seight*. This must be sound crazy *lol*...sorry...I guess I try to find an excuse why this doesn´t work for me. Can you believe?
ok...all I can say is...I´m not giving up. If this means I´ll be fighting until I finally GET IT...then ok...I´ll be fighting until I GET that I can´t loose 200 pounds in one week.
TruBrit said,
July 5, 2010 1:24 PM
Jill, reporting in - I stayed the same this week :(
Jo.
didi said,
July 5, 2010 11:44 AM
hi everyone...just reporting in..my weight stayed the same this week...my pattern continues...lose one week, stay the same the next...frustrating, but it's going in the right direction...
angel....maybe you should just weigh yourself once a week...weight can fluctuate many lbs over a few days depending on what you eat and the amount of salt in your food..glad you're better today!!!
TammyNO...we're all pulling you back into the firetruck!!! you can do it...BELIEVE in yourself!!!
Gloria...you did great!!! keep on tracking!!! the beauty of WW is that you can eat anything within moderation...
Vera...Way to go girl!!!! FANTASTIC!!!!
Laurie..terrific about the pants fitting better!!! woohooo!!
Wendy...keep journaling!! that's the best way to stay on track!!
Jillie...rrRRRRRRrrr rrrrrRRRRRRRRRrrrrr rrrrRRRRRrrr!!! we're all whizzing along feeling that breeze in our faces...hope you weekend is great!!!!
Holly and Carolyn...terrific goals!!!
hope you all have a great day!!!! i'm going in the pool now for my exercise..the water is 92 degrees!!! my knees feel better in the pool!!
cosmogirl said,
July 5, 2010 11:12 AM
Jillie,
Just reporting in. I have been writing in my journal every day. Working on day 5 today. Have a great day. My best, Wendy
It's not what happens in the moment,it's what happens in the moments after.
Wendy from CT
Vera Peter 2 (not verified) said,
July 5, 2010 9:56 AM
VJ in Texas,
I to am a diabetic following WW and Kim's recipes. I have lost 76.8 lbs in 18 months. I just watch out for the sugar contents of a meal. Good Luck in your Journey of weight loss. P.S. I have come off of my insulin totally, and decreased my oral meds. Vera :)
jailes said,
July 5, 2010 9:28 AM
rrrrRRRRRrrr----rrrrRRRRRrrr----rrrrRRRRRRrrrrr!!!!!
Greetings to all the firetruckers!!!! It's MONDAY, but it's sort of still like a weekend to so many with being off work and all --- but it's still a REPORTIN' day!!!! Unless you're not on here today --- but since it's sort of a holiday - we'll make Monday and Tuesday the official reportin' in days!!!! So get your report together and post it --- good or not-so-good ---- just make yourself post. This one is a tough one due to the weekend (and a long one at that!) of celebration --- but that's all over now and it's time to put out the fires of any mishaps and look at today being a fresh new day -- a fresh new week --- and a new month of JULY!!!!! We CAN do this ---- we WILL do this --- others have done it before - and we can do it NOW!!!!
rrrRRRrrrrr----rrrrRRRRRRrrrr----rrrrrRRRRRRRrrr!!!!!!!
***BEFORE YOU CAN WIN, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTHY. -mike ditka
***IT ALL COMES DOWN TO DECISIONS, CHOICES AND FOCUS
***SMILE WHEN IT HURTS MOST
***IF YOU NEVER CONCEDE A GOAL, YOU'RE GOING TO WIN MORE GAMES THAN YOU LOSE -bobby moore
***THE ROAD TO SUCCESS IS LINED WITH MANY TEMPTING PARKING PLACES
***THERE WILL BE SLIP UPS, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU GIVE UP!
* * * * * *
Jillie says:
make it an OH MY STARS day!!!
Gloria718 said,
July 5, 2010 6:26 AM
Weigh in and a confession. I should have weighed in on Saturday because I was not on program yesterday. We had a cookout and I ate potato salad, although I had planned to by-pass the salad and stick with the tossed salad I made. I did eat the tossed salad by the way and the grilled asparagus, which was delicious. I am proud to say I didn't have the chocolate cake that was there. Fortunately, the slip up didn't bring on a full-blown binge, but I still hate that I messed up my perfect record. So, my weight loss for this week is 1.2 pounds.
Back on track now. I guess the good side is that I posted the potato salad in my journal--8 points and all!
Have a good day, meet you back here tonight.
gloria
angeleyes said,
July 5, 2010 6:15 AM
I´m feeling a little better today. My weight in is on thursday...I hope that I lost weight until this day.
hey Tammy...how are you today? I hope you and max are ok again after all those sirens around you. Hey you did GREAT that you haven´t had a binge!
Laurie, many many thanks for your encouraging words! This is SO nice! *bighug* I was so desperate.
I´m NOT giving up! I had a good start for today...and I really have to more relax and put down this presure on myself.
ah...and something I have to shout out LOOOOUUUUUUUDDDDD!...I HATE the scale!...she isn´t my friend anymore (she never was)...it´s HER own fault! *pfffhhh* *gg*
NightowlTJRD said,
July 4, 2010 9:06 PM
I am so depressed!! I can hear 3 different fireworks displays going on around me but I can't see a damn thing!! I have no way of getting anywhere and I can't see anything because of very tall trees I can't get around. Plus Max is cowering under the bed thinking we are under attack, of what I do not know?!! This sucks!!! I've had a very crappy day and I'm not in a good mood, but I promise not to use this as an excuse to binge, which is exactly what I used to do before I learned food is not the solution to my problems!! If it was that easy I wouldn't have any problems at all!! Has anyone seen the commercial for a bracelet called "iRenew" it is supposed to be some kind of a miracle fix for sleep, energy and a bunch of other things, which I don't believe!! I don't get how companies can lie like they do about a product that doesn't do what they say it does?!! Okay now I'm just complaining, I'm sorry I'm just miserable!!! My knee hurts like mad, the humidity is killing me and I went crazy last night and ate 12 more points than I should have. I added them on today so I wouldn't gain too much, I hope. I can hear the finale for the fireworks booming away. Poor Max. Well I'm ready to get back on the firetruck, I didn't know I would be falling off so quickly. Thankfully the long shorts and high boots protected me from "roadrash". I hope everyone had a beter holiday than me!!
Toodles!!
Tammy (NO) :)
Laurie Fjord said,
July 4, 2010 8:44 PM
Hi Angel, Keep up the good work. It is very frustrating not to lose after an OP week but sometimes it happens! When that happens to me the next week usually shows good changes. Don't value yourself by the scale. Look for non-scale things to show improvement. Yesterday I put on my EMT pants and was able to wear them comfortably all day- with a belt and my shirt tucked in. A month ago I couldn't do that. The numbers on the scale haven't changed more than 250grams but the pants now fit. Keep trying and things will show.
angeleyes said,
July 4, 2010 9:33 AM
happy 4th July to everybody!
I´m sorry, but I´m so desperate. I gained weight although I was always under my kcal and drunk a looooooooot of water. I´m frustrated. Then I ate chips before breakfast today! Can you believe?! chips! The only good thing is…I had not the whole package. And for breakfast I had a fat spread on my bread.
Now I made a lot grilled veggies….and one peace of pork . I´m happy that I stopped after the chips and the breakfast…..and I tracked the kcal. But I´m so unhappy that I have gained. Why?! Why do I gain while I eat less kcal then I could? Why can´t I be one of those who can eat what they want and stay thin? Sometimes I´m thinking “why I´m not just giving up”…this whole up and down of pounds stresses me out. Since over 20 years I´m losing and gaining weight. I´m SO tired of this.
Usually I´m a happy woman and I love to laugh a lot and I love my life….and I hate it when I´m down only because of this damn weight.
didi said,
July 4, 2010 7:47 AM
Happy 4th Everyone!!!!! a common bumper sticker states, "FREEDOM ISN'T FREE"....well, that pertains to weight loss, also....it takes alot of planning and hard work to be free from food...enjoy your day... I'M PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN!!!
Phyllis M1 said,
July 3, 2010 3:33 PM
Actually, guys, if you are wondering about the sudden
change of fire suits: An s.o.s. went out to me today
on e-mail to design Ginny-kins a "Last fireworks over
Boston Harbor" outfit! She looks adorable, too. I
have her dressed in red glittery shorts (I wanted short shorts, but Ginny said to the knee) and a red, white, and
blue "spangled" tank (sleeveless) -- it's going to be really HOT for Keith Lockhart and his Boston Pops ( I read in the paper today) -- so the outfit suits! Ginny will be wearing Kim's Miss Liberty crown with red and blue stars; and,of course, her little white "go go" boots with r,w, & b tassles!!! HAPPY FOURTH!!! I don't think her neighbors in that high rise will be forgetting her any time soon!
Phyllis M1 said,
July 3, 2010 3:22 PM
Jillie, I think you are right about the inordinatelyn high number of Kimmies on board the firetruck!!! I think it's
the FIREMEN!!!
O, and I had to re-think our Kimmie fire suits! It is too
doggone hot for the others, so we are having lavendar rhinestone and sequinned crops and lavendar and pink
striped tank tops! Our helmets are so cute I am not re-
designing those. Hwever, Ginsie's wants more of a "go go"
boot instead of the knee highs! We'll still be safe --
after all we are protected by our firemen!!!
armywife516 said,
July 3, 2010 10:13 AM
Wishing everyone a happy and fun holiday weekend!
Jilly, count me in too for the firetruck! My goal for the month is 90 miles walking and 12 hours of additonal workouts for the month(Bootcamp/Pilates/Kettlebell
Also my goal for each week is to average 70,000 steps, some days I get way more than 10,000 and some days under.
Love,
Holly
Buttercup said,
July 2, 2010 11:03 PM
Just found a few quotes that I like and thought I'd share them... many have probably heard these somewhere before on our journey but they are so good!
I AM SUCCESSFUL THE MOMENT I DECIDE TO BE...
PLAN TO WIN...
PREPARE TO WIN...
EXPECT TO WIN...
ABILITY is what I'm capable of doing
MOTIVATION detrmines what I do
ATTITUDE determines how well I do it
It's been a quiet day here, I listened to the June 18 and 24 meetings today and along with this blog am impressed with the fact that what really counts or matters is changing my behavior... I totally agree with this! It's better if a weight loss not show on the scale when I'm not tracking and working to stay OP because it means I stand the chance of not learning what is needed to change my behavior... and it's kind of like rewarding wrong behaviors. I know there is something I'm needing to learn but feel I keep missing it... there have been so many times I have thoughts of walking away and quiting but deep down I have this desire to have that control over food... Most of the time I must admit I feel like it won't happen... but there is something that won't let me quit... and I'm thankful for that!
Have a wonderful weekend...
Carolyn
BMIL02 said,
July 2, 2010 10:36 PM
I just want to say I hope everybody has a wonderful and safe "FOURTH OF JULY!"
Tammy B.
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