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Whole Hearted Dieting

I hate even asking this question, but I will because I care. Are you giving your weight loss your best effort?

If you’re like most people you have taken the time to invest in some kind of weight loss program. Whether it’s a formal program like mine, or maybe it’s a book you’ve read, it’s still an investment. You’ve put the time into reading, comparing, making a decision and taking a course of action.


If you’re like most people you’ve stocked up on healthier foods. You may have begun taking the extra time to brown bag your lunches instead of the grabbing it at the local sandwich shop.

Are you nodding your head as you read this?

There’s a financial investment, too: membership fees, new scales and journals; specialty products or lighter ingredients which may come at a premium at the checkout lane.

If you are like most people you have even taken the time to sit in on meetings or highlight chapters in a booklet, download new apps and unearth measuring devices that have been hidden in dark corners of your kitchen cupboards since, well since the last time.

Check! Check! Check!

And don’t forget the exercise! Did you locate your gym swipe card? Purchase a smashing new exercise outfit, matching water bottle (too corny, sorry) and get your playlist set on your phone?

So, here comes the question again, “Are you giving it your all?”

You may be thinking, “What does she mean? Look at all the work I’ve done already! Of course I am!”

Want the truth? Getting it all together is the easy part. Sorry. But it is. And you know what else (at the risk of being the least popular weight loss leader in history)? Doing it half-heartedly is pretty easy, too. And did you know (might as well go all the way here) that in the beginning, you can lose a lot of weight dieting half-heartedly? If you’re obese or morbidly obese, you can cut back without feeling too much pinch and lose quite a few pounds in the first few weeks. True? Of course true! Here’s the kicker — no one, but you (depending on how honest you’re being with yourself) would even know the difference.

If you’re like most people, you’ve made at least one of these comments to yourself …

… I plan MOST of my day. I know pretty much what I’m going to do.

… I eat the same thing every day anyway, at least for breakfast and lunch.

… I’m perfect all day, it’s just the evenings where I have a little trouble.

… I’m really good at estimating.

… I eat such healthy foods!

… I don’t track everything, but I don’t eat all my calories /Options/Points either.

… Well, at least the scale is going in the right direction … a little.

I have heard Chinese food and soup being blamed on small weight losses that were really due to sloppy, half-hearted dieting one time too many! I have to call you on it! I KNOW BECAUSE I AM YOU! I’ve said the same things to myself and wasted too much time over the years.

We are willing to give up juuuuust so much of our food addiction -- just till it starts to hurt? And then hold on to the rest as if it were something worth holding on to?

Trust me, it’s not.

Ninty percent effort will get you where it’s always gotten you — to the second month of your diet and then you’ll be stuck once again and you’ll be wondering, "Why isn’t this working any more?”

Well, wonder no longer. Now you know.

The last ten percent effort that we don’t make is what hurts because it’s where the real change takes place. But I’ll tell you this, it doesn’t hurt anywhere near as much as being stuck where you are for the rest of your life. Wanting the dream and never reaching it. Having your health go down hill slowly over the years and not reversing it when you can.

The funny thing is ... no one can really tell! That’s the dirty little secret that dieters share. We don’t talk about it. It’s not conscious, but we know it’s there. It’s the art of holding back our best. It's empathizing so much with others because we know we do it, too. 

I think of the countless evenings I took the time to get to my aerobics class, got in my leotard and leg warmers (I know, aerobics, I’m dating myself), did my pelvic tilt and started hopping around with everyone else. Inside I KNEW I was giving it a half-hearted effort, but it was easier. It didn’t hurt as much. All that time and money and partial effort for partial results! The funny thing is, no one could tell but me.

Last bit of truth (I promise) … if you’re willing to call yourself on it and put in that last ten percent, you’ll be amazed at the scale that once wouldn’t budge, will start moving once again. 

Half-hearted dieting is NOT what this site is about. And I believe it’s not what YOU are about, either. Come on. Do it 100%. Whole-heartedly. I know you can. 

You WILL see a difference. You WILL get to goal. I believe in you, from the bottom of my whole heart!

Gandhman said:
Jan 18, 2018 12:00 AM
Yup, thats me! Brand new today....

FreeIndeed said:
Jan 03, 2018 12:00 AM
*I can be perfect all day, it’s just the evenings where I have trouble. Or when home alone in evenings. So I should know of when to really be on guard!! Low losses or no change on scale for good is mostly due to sloppy, half-hearted dieting one time too many! Too many self indulgences……get control, have to sometimes say NO & deny the flesh! I wrote out notes to post in my kitchen when I face an issue with what I plan to put in my is not worth the pain. Life is so short to mess around any longer & not have peace right now in the rest of my journey :) 2018 is my year of successes to goal. To think of being at goal or near goal & hope to get to the KB Reunion to meet the best Coach ever. Hugs & blessings!

Chabbie said:
Nov 03, 2017 12:00 AM
Kim !!! You described me to a tee !! I just now turned over a new leaf after reading this ! Thanks very much for the wake up call !!!

Brrvt said:
Oct 25, 2017 12:00 AM
Excellent advice!! (As always 😉)

Starliner said:
Oct 23, 2017 12:00 AM
Thank you Kim for this Honest kick in the rear. I appreciate it more than you know. I have been struggling and it is because of extended family issues. But I have chosen the wrong way to deal with And I just remembered another honest truth that you have said...the food does not fix, change or help the issue. I am going to do the 100/ day at a time and again build on that platform. Thanks Kim, I really needed this blog today!

Dpullen said:
Oct 23, 2017 12:00 AM
Thanks Kim! This is my main problem.

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